I am convinced that the topic is always relevant. I want to list the main reasons that cause the deterioration/destruction/destruction of relationships, which John Okoro highlighted.
Control. If you trust, it is proof of love. Everything the other person does is not your responsibility. Give each other wings, in the sense of allowing each person in the couple to act as they are comfortable and without supervision. Stress. Creating emotional tension. It destroys sexuality in adults and has a profound negative impact on children. Non-acceptance of reality. This applies to various areas of life - catching up with youth in an unnatural way, constant changes in the interior of the house, the constant search for a profession, a person who is an "eternal student", etc. Everything that happens to us negatively must be accepted and acknowledged. Remember, the first step to overcoming addiction is to acknowledge its presence in yourself.If we are unable to accept ourselves in our reality, then we will also deny the words and actions of those closest to us.
Irritation and anger. These emotions can even cause a stroke, but most often they destroy relationships. Irritation and anger arise from distrust. If you cannot trust others, then at least try to trust your own decisions. If you make a mistake, it will be your mistake and it deserves respect, it can broaden your horizons and illuminate other ways to solve the situation. It is important to take responsibility for your life. This will reduce the reasons to get irritated and angry at someone, shifting responsibility will disappear.NB A person cannot build harmonious relationships in an imbalance. It is important not to overdo it in any area of life.
Be happy!
The text was prepared by Iryna Zubrytska-Makota, psychologist/psychotherapist at the Alter Ego Center.
